What my fiancé really thinks about me not wanting kids

as DINKWADs of a multiple 6-figure income household

It’s 9:10 pm on a Tuesday. We just got back from the gym and are having a late dinner after a packed day of work, wedding planning, content creation (Hello, Financial Literacy Month 💸), and spoiling our pup Cali with a long evening walk — followed by new treats.

For years, my fiancé and I have gone back and forth on if we want kids, or not.

The truth is, right now we’re so happy. We live in a beautiful one-bedroom in the middle of New York City. We’re incredibly blessed with high-paying remote jobs. We love traveling and can thankfully afford to do so often. And we love giving back.

In fact, I just bought my mom a flight to Mexico on a whim so she can be there for my grandpa’s 94th birthday. She’s surprising him with Mariachi and all! 🇲🇽

So why is the whole having kids vs. not having kids such a big deal?

Well, for one, if you’ve been on social media, there have been tons of videos circulating about whether or not parenting is “fun” or “worth it.” And tons of videos with parents, and non-parents, sharing their own perspectives. (I actually just posted mine today, here if you missed it!)

And, of course, I got a few questions and comments (from men, of course) feeling some type of way about MY choice on having / not having children.

After all, I’ve been claiming that I’m the first one in my family to overcome generational poverty and build generational wealth. And that is 100% true.

“But Viv, who are you going to pass down your generational wealth to if you don’t have children…”

*Sigh*

If I don’t have children, my wealth will be passed onto my nieces, nephews, and hopefully even complete strangers in the form of charitable donations.

If I don’t have children, the work I’ve done to spread financial literacy to other parents, children, and families will still be remembered and recorded.

And even if I don’t have children, my educational financial content will still have touched millions of people at some points in their life. Hopefully more!

That’s my version of passing on generational wealth.

And what my fiancé thinks of this all?

We are and have always been on the same page. The truth is, we love our life right now. This is the life we’ve worked so hard to build together. For now, we want to keep it this way and enjoy this chapter of our life fully — just us and our baby Cali. 🐾

Whether or not we decide to have kids will NOT personally affect any of the men or women out there who choose to have kids of their own.

The truth is: I don’t judge people for having kids.

And I wish people wouldn’t judge me for not wanting kids.

In fact, in my previous job as a Content Manger, I worked for Greenlight, the money app for kids and teens. I created a lot of their financial literacy content for parents, kids, and teens! I still use the app to teach the kids in my life about finances, since no one ever taught me. 💸

If you’re interested in using Greenlight for the children in your life, use my code: VIVGREEN to get one month, on them. After that, it’s only $5.99/month which is cheaper than Netflix, and IMO, well worth the money.

So, what do you think of all of this? Why do you all think people care so much about whether or not OTHER people have kids? Drop me a comment or respond to this email to share your public opinion ✨

(And remember, we listen and we don’t judge here 🙏🏽)